FAQs

No, you’re not broken. Many women struggle with orgasms due to factors like stress, trauma, or simply not knowing what works for their bodies. Orgasm difficulties are more common than you think—up to 44% of women experience orgasm difficulty, and up to 15% have not yet experienced an orgasm. The key is patience, self-exploration, and reframing pleasure as a journey, not a destination.

Tip: Start with mindful self-touch (no goal, just curiosity) and consider tools like cannabis to reduce anxiety if you’re open to it.

Absolutely! Intense pleasure can trigger emotional releases—laughter, tears, or shaking are your body’s way of processing built-up tension or joy. Think of it like a pressure valve. One Reddit user described feeling "burst-out-laughing happy" during sex but stopped herself out of fear. That laughter might have been her body’s path to orgasm.
Tip: If this happens, lean into it. Let your body express what it needs without judgment.

Physical healing (like overcoming vaginismus) is just one piece of the puzzle. Trauma, anxiety, or subconscious "mental walls" can linger. As one survivor shared, even when penetration feels good, flashbacks or fear can hijack the moment.” This is your nervous system’s way of protecting you. Patience, inner trust, and retraining your nervous system will help you enjoy penetration. Cannabis can also help lower your “mental walls” when you feel safe and with a trusted partner.
Tip:Pair penetration with sensory grounding techniques (e.g., deep breathing, soothing music) and use your voice to express to your partner how you feel or explore solo play first to rebuild trust in your body.

Yes—research and countless women (including me!) report that cannabis helps women orgasm by reducing anxiety, heightening sensation, and helps lower “mental walls” or as some women put it, helps them "get out of their head." One peer-reviewed published study found that 96% of women with orgasm difficulties benefited from frocannabis before sex by improving orgasm frequency, making it easier to orgasm, and improving orgasm satisfaction But it’s okay to be hesitant! Start with a low-dose, CBD-dominant product if THC feels intimidating
Tip: Consult a medical cannabis doctor to find the right strain/dose for your body.

Shame is a common trauma response. One user admitted she’d feel "embarrassed if anyone found out" she masturbated—this guilt directly blocks pleasure. Healing begins with self-compassion and small steps:

Reframe masturbation as self pleasure and self-care.
Write a letter to your younger self, giving permission to explore.
Therapy or support groups can help unpack deep-seated shame.
Tip: Try a "pleasure practice" (10 minutes daily) to reconnect with your body without pressure to orgasm.